Quote: When we were talking on Saturday H contradicted himself so many times. Would talk about life with OW and then life with me. Like he couldn't decide what he was doing.
I feel so bad for your H. He sounds very confused and sad. He also sounds as if he needs a friend and, in my opinion, AA. I know from personal experience (my brother) that you can't MAKE somebody stop drinking. I also know that what does help is to let them go to make their own mistakes and be there for them when they fall and need your support. We tried for YEARS! to "help" my brother to stop drinking. It never helped. What did help was when I (we) showed him that we loved him no matter what he did/was. I am forever grateful to God because last year, my brother realized that he was a person that is worth loving, that his life means something to someone and he slowly started to get his act together. He has now been sober for about 10-11 months! Anyway, just an example.
Your H is very lucky to have a wife and sons that love him. You are dealing with both MLC and alcoholism, which can by themselves be extremely difficult. I can't even imagine them in combination. Please continue to detach, take care of yourself and your little s4. You are very strong, intelling, and caring.
Quote: I think my new outlook, view of the sitch, is that he is living in our house, apart from me and just take it day to day for now.
I think this is perfect. Sage suggested something along these lines to me when I was (am) fretting about H being in his own apartment.
