I just copied this off uRw's thread, written by Job, thanks Job: "Their pain runs very deep and even though we "assume" that they are happy, they are not. Their minds are scrambled 24/7 and their focus is shot. Their memories are like swiss cheese and their entire lives are made up of constantly wearing masks. Masks of happiness, mask of sadness, etc. It gets tiring. Living in a fantasy world isn't what I would call happiness because one day, the world will right itself and as they come closer to reality, they will soon learn what is to be held accountable and they have to face the consequences of their actions. Those consequences could be anything from losing their homes, spouses, children, self respect, wealth, health, etc. They are very broken individuals that unfortunately we didn't break, so we can't fix them. Some will survive and become mature adults and others will continue to live in la la land until they die. They are the ones that are very lonely and bitter individuals who didn't have what it takes to do the hard work to come home. Euphoria is a powerful feeling...but it only lasts so long.
We, the LBS, were hit right between the eyes and suffered the pain and hurt early on. We will work through all of it and will become stronger, wiser and more enlightened in many ways. By the time many of them wake up, we have endured and moved forward w/our lives. The ones that wake up, will discover they have a lot of work to do if they want to try to come home. That's when they will have to face the pain that we endured at the beginning. That's why it is so important to work through your pain and not get stuck along the way. We don't want to see anyone fall into the deep, dark pit of despair w/the MLCers. The LBS holds the key to their futures, as well as being the ones that will make the final decision as to whether the MLCER will return home or not."
Linda
Me 65, Ex 64 M 38 y 2 adult S, 4 G-Kids MLC 11/07 BD 12/09 D 3/14 Dating nice guy 7/14 Engaged to nice guy 12/17