"You're My Best Friend"

[Ambivalent]

URworthy,


"We find ourselves a bit lost, when something like MLC happens. Our equilibrium is thrown off. Our role, as we saw it, to fix things, to keep the family together and working, etc. is now skewed. "

You just described me! I was born in '60 last of three. Older parents. So stay at home mom, and teen in the 70's. Worked hard , and got married.

I wasn't going to have kids, wasn't going to stay home. First was born, and then... WHAM! couldn't allow someone else to raise my daughter.

Now , when you say RH is trying to hold on, I identify SO much with that.

Our home/family was our career. It was our workplace and refuge. I home-schooled, coached, volunteered, . I landscaped, drove miles and miles, had two high need children who were also highly gifted (which means I had to meet there needs cognitively and otherwise ).I feel ripped apart and yes even a bit resentful over a decision made unilaterally, without any discussion nor input from myself. I gave so much and feel at times as if what I've done is discounted or not appreciated.

I don't know if you felt that way RH, but I'm still reeling from where I am presently. Coming to terms with VAST changes, and it all happening at once.

You are in a better financial situation than I/we, for my H. hasn't made the best decisions. Now I have extreme pressure on myself to achieve in school, get another job, keep the home I'm in, and just plain function with depression on my tail.

Your post just punched me in the gut.