I realize that you both are totally right. I keep thinking that if I just do this one more thing, say the right thing, that she will change her mind and realize what she is doing.
And Acc is right, she has complete control over my emotions right now.
I just don't know how to get to the point where i feel in control. I wish i could stand up for myself and set boundaries but i'm not sure where to begin.
Physical boundaries? or do i set boundaries for myself? aka...
"-- Limit contact with her to the bare minimum -- Keep it business-like -- Keep your interactions on a schedule so you can mentally prepare -- Shut down your ability to spy on her. You already know what's going on, stop looking. Set her up with a separate bank account that you don't have access to. Set her up with a phone account you can't see. Just push the visibility off your screen. The less you know day-to-day, the better"
What are other boundaries i can work on? 1 boundary i really want is that I dont want my D to have any contact with OM. How can i enforce that? I'm still new in the DR book ( ON chapter 2) so maybe this is all laid out for me.
Its like my w has been taken over... She is so CRUEL now.
I really appreciate the input ACC. you have had some great words of wisdom on my sitch. I will go back and read this thread fromt he beginning, and try to start practicing what you preach.
The information is great, I just need to be stronger to put it into practice!
