I am confident in stating that I know my motives were 100% pure.
Just remember, anything you do will get interpreted by the WAS in the worst possible way. If I had to send something to my W and she had been using her maiden name on doc's, I would have asked her "W, I need to send X to you but I'm not sure which last name you're using, let me know and I'll get this sent off." I never assume I know what my W is thinking, I learned that lesson at BD, LOL!
