Hanging on to the roller coaster

[CallaghanClown]

I think it's fair to say remorse encourages a healthy functional human being to make changes in their behavior.

I'm not sure the same holds true for the MLC-er.

History repeats itself. For the last two years especially--In my H, at least, I see him running like a bat outta He!! from any uncomfortable feelings. He may be able to face a small amount at a time. But, I wouldn't expect him to have genuine feelings of remorse and make big, sweeping changes in a single event. I think just about everything is SLOW with the MLC-er. Little bit at a time.

Just my .o2.

Heather

I agree.

This is all words....until actions follow, they can not be trusted. I just wondered if there was a history lesson to learn from remorse. Whether it was a MLC script that I'd missed.....

I must remain consistent to changes. If he's ready to move forward in his MLC journey, no sudden movement from me will help. He needs to see me as the ever standing lighthouse that hasn't changed, regardless of his actions.

I'm happy being the me I am now. I'll just keep working on her and try to ignore his every move.....it really is hard though isn't it. It's like watching your toddler crawl towards an open fire.....guess they need to feel the heat to understand the danger!