AS . . . I can't really imagine a world where I am detached yet still want to R with my H. I guess because in my mind, as long as I love him and care about him, the things he says and does will affect me. If you are able to see your W's OM, shake his hand, and have it affect you not one bit, doesn't that mean you are over it?
Help me with the distinction. I suspect it has less to do with not caring and more to do with somehow separating the WAS's actions (in their current fog, delusion, or what have you) from your feelings for WAS?
me: 44 XH: 42 M 11 years D10 and S8 Bomb drop 9/27/13 D final 7/1/14
