In what universe...? part four

[TryingToDo180]

Keep onto the advice centre. They'll eventually get you an appointment, even if it's just to get you to stop calling them .

lol NQ I can't get through to them when I ring, I just get the answer phone all the time and I don't think I can leave a message. I'll try again and if I can leave a message then I'll start bugging them, lol. That reminds me of a bible passage when this women kept going on at the judge about some land she had and although this judge was a hard man in the end he agreed just to get her off his back, lol.

[Not Quitting]

Is it in a place you can get to easily? Can you just walk in and bug them in person LOL .

I was lucky enough to not have to deal with the advice centre at all but a couple of my friends did so I know how hard they are to get hold of. Keep at it, you'll get through to them eventually I'm sure.

[TryingToDo180]

I can't just walk in as it's always closed when I walk past it, grrrr. There is one in the town where the college is, but I'm at college then. I'll try again next week

[Not Quitting]

That's just typical. The place is there to give people advice and they're never open or don't answer the phone.

One other thought - are they online? You may be able to contact them that way and set up an appointment. I know a lot of things were less internet based when I lived there, but things have probably changed in the last 10 years.

Just trying to help out - don't want you getting stressed by this when your H is giving you enough stress.

[TryingToDo180]

I know you're trying to help out, don't worry about it I know that you care
I emailed them last Saturday to ask if they had an appt for this week and guess what? I didn't get an email back! grrrr! I feel less stressed about it all today though I went to see my life coach this afternoon and she helped me get a lot of things straight in my head My H wants me son to live with him so he can get his hands on my son's benefits. My life coach said that if I don't want my son to leave, then I can refuse for the benefits to be taken over in his name I am my son's main carer and have been since he was little. I also have power of attorney to hold his benefits in my bank account, as my son would just spend them on games, etc.

[Not Quitting]

Sounds like you've got someone in your corner. Is your life coach able to give you any suggestions as to where else to turn for advice on dealing with the issue.

[2old]

So TTD, best you stay on top of things from now on out when dealing with your H. Looks to me like he would do anything to get money etc. Sadly, I dont think you can trust him at all anymore.....And you son would only suffer living with him...

[TryingToDo180]

I agree 2old, at this moment in time I don't trust him. NQ, she suggested I go to the advice centre as well and if needed to book a free half hour session with the solicitor.

[TryingToDo180]

and I agree, I think my son would suffer if he lived with h At least if I refuse to give him my son's benefits then he might give up on this latest sitch Anyway, I've got an update which I'll tell you in a min

[TryingToDo180]

I had quite a hectic day today! I was reading a response to one of my threads on a Christian site, full of bible quotes and prayers. I prayed again to God and said I was weary and I am handing it all to him. Whilst I was reading my son text me asking me if I could bring his wallet over to college as he'd forgot it. I missed the bus, so I had to get a taxi. I got a text from h on the way to say could I ring him as my son can't come over on Saturday as my h is working! I waited until I got back on the bus and rang him back. He seemed ok today, not the evil h of late! I wonder if that was God working in our lives, I thanked God anyway. I'm always suspicious when h is being nice as I think what is he after now. I'm sure you've all been there, it's part of the script. I met my friend for a coffee this morning, then went home and saw my good Christian friend this afternoon who gives me some life coaching and spiritual guidance
I asked H on the phone what he was doing for Christmas. He said he didn't know yet, so I said well if you've got nowhere to go then you're welcome to come and spend the day with us. I said I didn't like to think of him sitting in his flat on his own pulling a cracker by himself, lol. Well at least I've made the offer, the ball is in his court now. Whether he comes or not it's up to him, I suspect he won't but I'm not bothered about that. I have no expectations about this at all.
I thought about my son's presentation and I've decided what I'm going to do. It's on a college day so we'll get the bus to the town it's in without going home and grab something to eat there My mum's sent me some money for Christmas and said to go out for a meal beforehand so I think she'll be pleased If my H wants to go, then he can make his own way there, lol.