My high school boyfriend died a few days ago. His wife called me in the middle of the night, looking for his friends phone number. This was his 3rd wife, he has been having a rough past couple years. (Who hasn't?)
I told my friend and she flippantly texted me that she wasn't surprised considering what I told her about him. Wow. I didn't answer the text.
I'm pretty sure my old friend committed suicide. He had made many previous attempts. Still sad, when people get into drugs they can get clean and sober, but they can't always recover.
Even my X told me he was sorry to hear that when I told him.
The guy I'm dating picked me up at the airport from a visit to my older son in Texas. We went over to Ala Moana and went out on SUP boards. His board is harder than mine! I ran out of energy, I had a flu bug while I was in Texas. But it was nice to spend time on the water after that long flight.
Still not sure where he and I are going. He is very underemployed. And I am not a princess, but have a minimum standard of living. Anyway, just going with the flow. He thinks I'm beautiful. And I think he is adorable. I met him when I was selling an ocean kayak online. Sparks flew. He is 8 years younger than me. And he is about an inch taller, which on this island is about as good as it gets.
Me 57 XH 58 Sons age 32 & 27 M:32 D final 9/12 Bought 10 Acres and Living the Dream!
Wendy, I'm sorry to read about your high school boyfriend. It's difficult when you hear such news and then to have an old friend make insensitive remarks about the person.
I'm glad you have arrived back home safe and sound, but very sorry to hear your caught the flu bug. I hope you are feeling better soon.
As for the guy you are dating, just go w/the flow and enjoy his company. The age difference doesn't make a whole lot of difference these days. In my area, younger men have been hooking up w/women 12-15 years older than them and they are enjoying life to the fullest. Don't worry about the age difference.
Take care and I hope you feel better soon.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
I guess my sadness isn't going to get better anytime this week. My favorite aunt died in her sleep last night. She was old, lived a long full life. But still not a happy day. I sure am going to miss her. I officially no longer have any living aunts or uncles on my dads side. His whole family of 6 has passed away.
All I really wanted was a hug from Ben. But I didn't go to him. He didn't offer a hug. Just a stiff "I'm sorry." And he knew her. He was talking about his aunt this morning, before we found out about my aunt and he was talking about her like she was alive. I reminded him she had passed away and he sorta said "oh, yea."
I guess I'm the sentimental one. Oh well. I'll miss my Aunt Vaunda. She was a strong woman. Great role model and smart too!
Hug all your old folks people, who knows how long we have them!
Me 57 XH 58 Sons age 32 & 27 M:32 D final 9/12 Bought 10 Acres and Living the Dream!
I am sorry for your loss... The passing of family is one of the draw backs to aging. I am thinking and praying for you and your family.
I try my best to make funerals fun (yet respectable), remembering the goofy, stupid things we did. I really want my funeral to be a stupid party- because I'm the king of goofy stupid random acts of fun...
You can not change your past, but you can ruin a perfectly good present by worrying about the future.
Wendy, I am so sorry to read that your aunt passed away. It doesn't matter how old they were, it still hurts because she was the last surviving aunt on you dad's side.
I hope you are feeling better soon.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
So I keep moving on. I am not always sure about my current path. I had some more strangeness happen. Not sure what to do with it.
I got a call out of the blue. Another high school boyfriend. One who I had SUCH a crush on, who pushed me away hard when I was chasing him. I got him a job at the car wash gas stations I managed in college. (Hired my now X too, that was how I met him!) My old boyfriend lost both his parents in high school. About a year and a half apart both from cancer. He was a mess.
I think I was like a mom to him, we used to go yearly to the big city and buy his clothes. We did this for 4 years, until I moved away to university with X. We have always kept in touch, I used to run the high school reunions.
Anyway, old bf never married. He called last night to profess his love for me. (He hasn't seen me since 2006) He wants me to come visit him. He said some of his friends told him they were tired of hearing about how he felt like he missed out with me.
I told him I
Me 57 XH 58 Sons age 32 & 27 M:32 D final 9/12 Bought 10 Acres and Living the Dream!
Anyway, I didn't promise him anything. I do think to see him again would be fun. My biggest problem is I think he drinks too much. And we sure get pickier as we get older. I told him I would call him in a few days and we could talk more. Kind of a funny conversation.
Aloha friends,
Wendy
Me 57 XH 58 Sons age 32 & 27 M:32 D final 9/12 Bought 10 Acres and Living the Dream!
Of course, we all love the idea that our past boyfriends have just been pining away for us ever since. And sometimes, maybe, they do. But it's also possible that someone like him used his unrequited "passion" for you as an excuse not to let anyone else actually get close and make a life with him (you did say he'd never married, right?).
Or maybe he's just a depressed alcoholic and those high school times with you were the last times he can remember being happy.
Still, it seems like you should hear him out at least.
After looking up an old boyfriend my X suggested I look up an old girlfriend and in a few years we’d be sitting across the Thanksgiving dinner table, happy and in love with old flames.
BITS Me 55, ACK, when did that happen? Doesn't feel like 55 D 30 S 27
You create your own universe as you go along - Winston Churchill
Of course, we all love the idea that our past boyfriends have just been pining away for us ever since. And sometimes, maybe, they do...
I think it's more than just sometimes, in fact I think it's quite common especially when it comes to that first girl you fall in love with. There is something about a first love that never ever really leaves you. I know if my first girlfriend contacted me, I would travel to whereever to see her again (by the way - WHERE ARE YOU Melissa???)
