Accepting the Confusion - It is what it is Part 5

[tigerlily78]

I don't know if this would work in your situation, but I don't text my H very much at all. Instead I put reminders on post-it notes on the wall of his office and he can deal with this stuff in his own time. This also puts it on me to post things early and not procrastinate too.

I put the schedule of my and son's events on a post-it on the wall for the coming week and notes like "I put the trash bill on your desk to pay, Due Dec 1."

I know it is hard to "let go" on something like paying the lunch bill. Would your kids get a peanut butter sandwich lunch if they had no money on the account? Maybe in this case it would have been worth letting the consequences play out.

I think there is something of a feeling of "immediate demand" or even "interrupting" when you send a request by text. But if you communicate in something static like a note that is just waiting for them to read and follow through on when they are ready, it seems like less pressure.