My H has exhibited MLC behavior and signs of a crisis off and on throughout our marriage. I think he would run anytime the feelings from his childhood surfaced. He would disappear and go use drugs. Sometimes it would last a few months or maybe a few weeks. He slipped in and out of engagement with us.
Around the time we turned 30, he had a major crisis. His father left when he was 2 years old and signed over his parental rights to H's new stepdad. H never knew he was adopted until he was 13. He didn't remember his dad. He searched for him when he turned 30 and found him.
He did have a moment of clarity after that. He sought counseling, met his real dad and came back home with this tail between his legs. He proposed to me again with a big diamond. We had years of peace after this until now.
Based on this history, I don't see my H having a single event where he will face the remorse and come to his senses. This time the pain has pummeled him.
"You know, it's times like these when I realize what a superhero I am." Tony Stark/Iron Man
“Focus on what you can do, then do it with all your heart.” Lois Wilson
