I know tonight is going to be one of those horrible conversations where H withdraws a little more. His strategy is to step back and back until there is no more us.. He did it 16 years ago with his relationship then- long before I was on the scene and from bits of his story he told about then I can see the pattern now. So today I preduct he will say he is not coming back home for a long time and also at Christmas he has made other plans. I keep telling myself this scenario so I can react with "Ok as you like" when what i really want to do is scream NO !
Without children to keep him returning there is nothing here that might make him want to visit.
I am detirmined to not cry- until I hang up that is..or beg or question the R though I do have to ask questions about how to get this house ready for the snow. H e has always done that and I have no clue.. there is water to be turned off and tanks to be emptied and a whole slew of things and I have not a clue..
I connected with your comment earlier about not wanting to tell people what is going on so they do not judge him but some where I need some face to face conversations.
But I so feel like calling his sister and telling her. He said no one knows.. though i find that hard to believe.. anyway great thread and things sound like they are improving.. well done
