Wasn't the snow great yesterday? The kids had a snow day since the roads were so bad. We played all day and D9 and I skated in the backyard last night!
You are doing great. Way to back up your words with action! When you walk the walk and talk the talk, the ball is really in your H's court.
I think he will respond to that even more than he already appears to be. The OW is a crutch to him, I don't think he's even feeling connected to her anymore. I think he is flailing about and will eventually land back where he belongs - with you.
I can relate to your S crawling in with you. My S3 does that sometimes too, usually after getting up to go to the bathroom. And I don't always put him back in to his bed because it further disrupts my sleep. And we all know that mom needs sleep too - I bet your H wouldn't always move him either if the situation was reversed.
Hang in there - you are doing great!
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"Accentuate the positive, eliminate the negative..."
Quote: I'm going to save all of my threads and in ten years read them all.
This is exactly what I've been thinking! I even tried to print my first thread last Sunday but discarded the thought (I was in the office to WORK not print threads).
Anyway, just wanted to stop by and tell you what a strong, amazing woman I think you are. You are dealing with a very difficult situation and are handling yourself so well and with such class. Keep doing what you're doing.
Just checking in with a brief update of last night.
For most of the night - Silence...we only "talked" because I was trying to settle a ticket issue for a hockey game this weekend other than that H wouldn't talk to me or answer my questions. "are you going to bed?: no answer..okay I guess it was obvious becuase H only brushes his teeth RIGHT before he goes to bed. H and S took a shower I was trying to watch the last seconds of a b-ball game and H demanded I get in there right away to dry son off...I said I'll be there. S was still in the shower anyway...H likes to be the boss of my time..
H took S iceskating at an outdoor rink last night. I went grocery shopping and shoveled the driveway. When I got home I asked H if he had taken son iceskating and H said "yes, for the last time". I asked why H said "he's a whiner just like you" I didn't respond. H "demands" things of our son whereas I try to talk to S and make S more comfortable when attempting difficult activities. H wants to know why I baby S? I don't quite know how to respond so didn't. I wanted to say "I am the mother" I mean that says it all right there doesn't it?
Quote: I asked why H said "he's a whiner just like you" I didn't respond. H "demands" things of our son whereas I try to talk to S and make S more comfortable when attempting difficult activities. H wants to know why I baby S? I don't quite know how to respond so didn't.
Reply: "I'm sorry you feel that way, but that's not the way I see it." and drop it.
((((( CATHY )))))
Sorry to take until now to catch up and I'm sooo sorry you have to go thru this CRAP! ... but I sooo admire you for continuing to stand for what you want when most would have given up by now!
Ya know, when I was keeping a thread, I would get plenty of compliments from people saying I was the most patient and tolerant person they've seen ... well, I want to pass that "title" onto you Cathy, because you truly take the prize!!!
It must be especially hard to be faced with going through this crap again.