PM re the research on pre-pubescent boys, you'll see in my sig that I've raised 2 boys without physical violence and they're good people. I have read a lot of research.

So now, Planet, back to you. I would suggestif you want more input about raising children you should go to a forum that addresses that subject.

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss