I couldn't disagree more and mostly because of this very point: we aren't talking about fully developed, mature, adult brains.

So the brain is developing with the idea that those who love you can be violent with you and it's OK and expected.

Couch it in whatever terms you like, physical violence is physical violence and it affects the one on the receiving end in only negative ways.

This is Planet's thread and it's not a parenting forum so we should probably go back to the subject we're here to discuss, marriage.


Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

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I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
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