When the elephant comes by to check out the hole, you sneak up behind him and kick him in the ash hole........
Return of old H yesterday...gosh I missed him( not).
The make a joke at my expense, the crudeness, the arguing. Bestie, you are lucky I didn't see the bring out the dead post earlier....
Am I just being too sensitive?
Whoops, am I fully emerged from the wondrous LBS fog?
Help me out here:
I go to see H briefly yesterday at his place, we both have places to go. He says that his depression is different from what my post partum bout because mine was physiological and had a beginning and end. I remind him that no one acknowledged my depression and just thought I was being cranky and rude and everyone else could have babies and be fine, why couldn't i? Then he made a joke!!
" well, we knew when you told us". And laughed. This was in response to the statement above. He said this, and what I needed was validation, not a dismissal. While discussing the difference between depressions, I said I disagree ( him intimating his depression is sooooo different and much tougher, simply because everyone knows that ppd ends at so e point) but I can see where you are coming from.
Then I mentioned that men have it tough, because depression is really not spoken of. Then he said men get a raw deal, because if we look at testicular cancer, the rate of incidence is just as high as breast cancer but there is no big thing about it.
I said men do it to themselves by buying into the big strong myth. He then said women are just as much as fault for allowing it. I say I can see your point. By this time I am trying to get to my happy place.
Then marriage. H views it as a Christian concept apparently. He looks at me all smug " there are plenty of religions that advocate more than one spouse. Man was never meant to have only one partner, look at our ancestors, and genetic make up.
Okay, here I slip and say " well, then , you'd better go back to eating berries and raw meat in a cave....." If we are going back to our roots and all.
Later I get a text " hey, my friend will buy me a beer if I can prove I got laid tonight.."
I ignore this completely.
This weekend is going to be tough if I don't let this go......
