WAW having affair, still living in separate rooms

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It's real tense in our home now sleeping in other rooms and avoiding each other around the house.

I know that feeling, we were that way when H first BD'd me. Now, what can you do to change it? I acted happy and friendly (no matter how I felt) whenever H was around. I didn't go out of my way to talk to him just to talk but I said hello when he came home, replied to anything he said, talked about the kids stuff we needed to and always with a smile and a friendly tone. Inside, I wanted to choke him, outside, I was a happy person who was moving on with my life.

I do believe that her moving out and me standing my ground in keeping the marital home will give her time to think. But how, with the OM in the picture? Confusing.!!

Honestly, it can go either way. If she is with OM, she may just ignore all of her 'stuff' and move on, or she may realize that it isn't all roses with someone else and understand that eventually, she is going to have take a look at her role in her R's. If things are tense between the two of you and she feels your anger, pain, etc, which do you think is more likely? What you present is very, very important.

I am also going to bring up the OM and tell her that it is not right for him to be around my s.

This is your opinion (that I am sure most of us agree with, I know I do!) and you need to be careful how you present this. If you just say "it isn't right that he is around S", she is going to be defensive and tell you she can do whatever she wants with her life. If you let her know you have concerns and ask if you can discuss it together, then share how you feel it being so soon and confusing to him, you may get further. Hopefully, she will recognize that it really is too soon for him to be introduced.

'' God our Father, walk through my house and take away all my worries and illnesses and please watch over and heal my family in your name, Amen"

I like that! Say it every morning, night and each time you leave and come home