(1)I have a HUGE need to have others like and approve of me. (2)I will do anything to explain my “side” of things when H disagrees with me or doesn’t understand me (which leads to me texting him when I should have stopped)
You and me both honey!! Great insights. Now is your husband passive aggressive, because I have noticed that people with our tendencies attract these people. We are a honey pot to them, because they can manipualte us so easily.
Now passive aggression comes (according to some theories) from unexpressed and stuffed down anger. My xh defnitely became incresingly passive aggressive in the last few years before bomb drop, but the tendencies were always there, and the way I was, I played into his hands, without fully realising what was going on - a bit like the frog in warm water.
I still have to watch myself, and say 'no, I do not need to explain myself to you'.
