I forgot to add.... I totally understand how you feel about DB backsliding....my first thread was titled "DB seemingly Backfired on my H???"

Unfortunately after my big Db debut....he moved away...so i don't have a chance to try something different...I had one shot.

Now that you see certain things may not be working well....adjust...try something different and see if you get a better result.

Keep posting on your sitch and I'm sure you'll get some great advice.

me: 30 H:30
tgthr:7 m:4
no kids
5 counseling sessions initiated by H as a LR: Oct 2012
long distance marriage b/c of work since Nov 2012
official BD: July 2013
nothing filed
1/1/14 I dropped the rope