H just called, said he's working late and won't be done for about another hour and then says he won't be home. I ask where he's going and he says OW's. I say "so you're leaving then" H said "we discussed this the other night" I said again "so you're leaving" H said "okaaaayyy, I'll be there, but I probably won't be there till 9 or so. I say that's okay. And we both hung up? WTF??
He is testing you. Seeing if you are going to back up what you said. Good job. You backed it up. He is definitely going through alot right now and not sure what to do. Keep doing what you are doing.
I agree with everyone here! You are doing the right thing! Hang in there! I know this is hard, hon, but keep on track it's very important that you do!
I'd say he is in the 6th stage # 2 of that stage. Where he goes back in every stage and then shuts the doors one by one. Detach from his turmoil, this is his journey.
Remember when you were little and we always said, "Sticks and stones can break my bones, but words will never hurt me"? I think it applies to DBing! Thats why they say here "Believe nothing they say and only 50% of what they do"
Thats where I am Cathy, anything that comes out of my H mouth falls on deaf ears now. I think I believe more in "actions speak louder than words" LMAO.
Cath, I care and I'm here for you as a silent friend. I can't hold your hand or hug you. But I'm here thinking of you, and I feel your pain.
Been thinking about you and remember you saying this is might be what he needed...the ultimatum. At this point, for me, it is the right thing to do.
Since H said he wouldn't be home till later. I called him LATER to see if he WAS on his way home, to offer to warm up some dinner. Well H didn't answer his cell phone, but called right back. H was still working. H is crane operator and they were putting up a tower crane in the snow and dark..unbelievable. H didn't get home till late, S would NOT go to sleep. I was laying in bed, S was in his bed. At one point I thought S HAD gone to sleep, I was dozing in my bed. I opened my eyes and there S was standing there watching me for how long I don't know. So about that time I said get in bed with me, H got home, S was back up. H wanted to know why I couldn't get S to bed, I said S WON'T go to sleep! So we ALL ended up sleeping in the same bed last night.
Silent Friend...if we ever did meet in person I'd feel like I've known you forever and you are a forever friend.
I wonder if someone could add some more icons, the one's to pick from are pretty slim and getting old.
H reminds me of a teenager who wants to go see his girlfriend...it's really strange.
I'm doing good, H did come home last night. S and I shoveled the driveway last night. It was beautiful with the new snow. I wanted to get my X-country skis and ski. We have a big field next to our house and it would have been wonderful to just go, the field eventuall hooks up to a park.
Thats why they say here "Believe nothing they say and only 50% of what they do"
