So much has happened since my last post. so much that it would take too long to catch up.

Here is where we stand. In September, approached me to talk about M. He felt nothing has chanced, still not happy, feels we are leading separate lives (guess DB was noticed? is it backfiring?), said he was the only one who ever initiated R talk 9again DB?). Talk escalated and I calmly asked him if he was "done", and he said "I guess so." Broken heart

Two days later, he wanted to talk again. mentioned D right away. I thought he was thinking separation. he seemed surprised at that. He wanted to make a "list." I told him that since our S was starting 1st grade that week, we needed to give him a fair chance to get adjusted. He agreed to wait a few weeks. i also told h that this was not what I wanted,I was going to fight "stand" for my marriage. I also said I would not move out, as I was the primary caretaker for our son, due to H's work schedule.
I made a few points, never cried, listened to his thoughts, but agreed to nothing. That was the first week of Sept and nothing has been said since.

H is still at home and over the summer the coworker who I suspected a EA with, "friended" me on FB...in my mind it was "keep your enemies" close. She invited our family to her house with her h and 2 children. i expected a big 4th of July BBQ, but it was just 4 couples and it was a good time. She was friendly, relaxed, inclusive and affectionate with her H. I actually had a nice time. H called me into her kitchen to include me in telling a funny story. Since then, we have been there 1 more time, just our families for dinner and football. !?!?

Everything else is still the same...H sleeps on couch. makes no move upstairs, no intimacy (over a year) or hugs, etc. I have seen some positive steps...teeny, tiny ones, then he retreats.

Now he is working a parttime retail job and very friendly with a coworker...here we go again...he texts her all evening...he was just recently married and has 2 young boys. What is so hard is that he is making friends with these married women, who are "happily" married, but can't talk to me?!?

How can he ever begin to recommit to our M, if he is getting some sort of emotional-friendly needs met from these women...AUGH!!