Hoping to still move forward, huge setback

[cbtdad]

LTH,
Thank you for your post. Your insights help a great deal.
I have become aware that I have not healed from this yet and I realize its going to take time. It's made me a lot more patient now.
I completely get what you are saying. I think my wifes reaction the next day was one of excitement. I can read her body language so well. She doesn't communicate so well, but speaks loudly with her body language and eyes.
The day after she saw him and we discussed it could tell he really didn't have any emotions about it at all. It's why part of me is thinking someday i might be fine with her being around OM if we all in the same place. She knows i will never be ok with her being around him when in not around. She respects that and we have moved on from that discussion.
The part you talk about being in a happy marriage is spot on.
The happier we become i begin to not even think about this at all.
I know how this happened. It's not my fault, but I understand how we got to where we are at. My wife is a "relationship" person. Serial cheater is even remotely a thought. So as long as we are in a good place the trust will get stronger