Look what the cat dragged in! (TL)

[tigerlily78]

I am glad someone appreciates my humor.

I wish I had more opportunities for H to remember I have a good sense of humor. It is hard to STFU and be funny at the same time.

I think the beard thing is all about OW having major Daddy Issues. She WANTS him to look older. She also had convinced him not to wear his hat skating (his hair is thinning on the sides in the front)... I almost thought from the beginning that she KNEW he was MLC and was working to play up those anxieties.

My H has always loved skating... he is an aggressive rollerblader, not roller skater. AND when he was a teen there were many years he didn't get to skate or play soccer and other activities that he would have liked to have done because his mom was a total nutcase and his stepdad was abroad in the Air Force. So I can see how skating taking a big role in his MLC makes sense, he is trying to get back that lost time doing something that could have changed his life and level of happiness back then.

He has gone through a few periods since we've been together where he didn't skate for a couple years at a time, but it is something he always gravitates back to. I think it is one of the area in his life where he feels really good about himself and in control. He gets a high from the exercise, it makes him feel strong, and strangers give him admiration because he is really good at it. He is otherwise a pretty introverted and shy and self conscious person most of the time. But when he skates you can see a certain kind of self assurance and confidence.

When he was 32(!) he was still skating at a skate park a few towns over, doing grinds on rails and ledges and stuff. He had 16 year old kids looking up to him as a mentor there and I know he really enjoyed it. BUT, he ended up falling out of going to the skatepark (this was also partly my fault but for a really stupid reason) and then the skate park closed down a couple years later.

About a year ago or so, while driving him to work I pointed out a building for lease not far from the mall here. I told him that would make a great location for a new indoor skate park, the building had high enough ceilings for a half pipe and stuff. I said I know he is very good at his job, but I wondered if he wouldn't be happier if we owned a skate park. He agreed, that he has always wondered if he wouldn't be happier doing something else. After that discussion he even looked into how much it would cost to buy the old closed down skate park farther from our house, but it was WAY more money than either of us realized (like over a Million Dollars). So I guess that pretty much put a damper on that pipe dream.

Sometimes I still feel myself wondering if this whole situation could have been avoided if I had just not slipped on those stupid Skittles and stopped going skating. I guess I have to allow myself to accept that the MLC was probably going to happen one way or another eventually, the circumstances in my case just seem extra stupid. :P