You have to remember, that these are sides of your husband that he is facing for the first time. Sure he knew he had them, but he never faced them. He just pushed them off and for the first time in his life he is having to face them. He is looking at himself in the mirror and has no answers. He is not going to be allowed to run forever either.
He is stuck between a rock and a hard place right now and the Lord is making him face himself in a way that he has never done before. This is very important that you continue to do what the Lord is leading you to do right now.
You are going to be the one that is going to help pull him through this. You may not think so right now, but you are being used to make him face things that he has ran away from all of his life.
He could have ran to the OW, but he didn't. Instead, he chose to live downstairs in his own space. So be it, but you must continue to do what you are doing. You just don't realize the impact that you are really having on him with the things that you are saying and doing.
You don't have the full picture yet, but the Lord will reveal it to you in time. Just keep listening to what you are being told to say and do. Yes, he is going to be angry and ornery about everything right now. Go back and read the withdrawal part of it. I can't express enough about going back and reading about HB's story.
She too went through the same thing that you are going through right now. He spoke with her when he broke through, but yet he also did more things to her that hurt very badly, but she hung on because of the promise that the Lord gave her.
This is going to be the time that you make it or break it. Don't let the feelings that you are having over run anything. You have kept them at bay for this long and you will have the chance to continue to discuss your emotions and his emotions as this continues. This is the time that God is healing you guys for a better relationship and unless you guys discuss all the areas that you need to be healed in, this will happen again.
So just continue down this path because it is a very important path. I just can't express that enough to you. This is alot of the times where the LBS is the one that ends the relationship because they just simply can't take anymore and I can definitely understand that.
