New to the board, fairly newly LBS from MLC.

[tigerlily78]

I’m still trying to catch up on your sitch. So, your H lives at home (some nights), but he also stays at OW’s?

No problem Bright, I am so glad to have the opportunity to lend strength to others too, even if I am still a total newb, I think I am quick on the uptake.

My H basically spends all nights at OW's now (for the past 2 weeks). The last night he slept here was the night the OW finally read my facebook message, and I guess she needed 24 hours to process and then build her world of denial. He slept in our bed, we spooned. :P

He comes here in the mornings to get showered and ready for work. He often comes home for lunch, but not always. He "works from home here" some weekdays, eats dinner here about 50% of the time. He goes skating early some days, otherwise he is here for most evenings, but always ends up leaving by around 9pm to go to OW's. His OW works as a 911 operator, so she works 12 hour shifts and doesn't get off work until 7pm. She also has a part time job as one of the skating places here.

Update: He ended up coming home around 4pm, I was out at the mailbox getting the mail when he pulled up. He briskly walked in the door and said, "I have to go upstairs to work." It is kind of silly that he even came home. I guess he needed to change clothes... but it is clear to me he was logged into his home computer today from OW's, so he was working remotely from there. He didn't really need to come here.

I did end up making him dinner, even though days ago he told me he would NOT be here for dinner tonight. I was making tacos, so there was plenty, I didn't change anything to accommodate his change.

I managed to ask if he knew he was not going to come home this morning when last night I said I would see him in the morning. Did he intentionally withhold his plans from me? He said no he didn't, his plans just changed. I didn't ask for more details. (makes me wonder if plans changed because he was burnt out and needed to not drive back here this morning, or if OW blew off her work or had the day off, or if it was just a subconscious thing because he needed to be away from me).

He told me my breath smelled bad! I apologized and said I ate peanut butter this afternoon and hadn't brushed my teeth yet since then and added that I hadn't planned on seeing, that I didn't expect he'd be coming back at all today. He said he wasn't trying to be rude, just trying to let me know not to breathe so much (wtf? I was standing like 4 feet away, I know he has a really good sense of smell, but it wasn't like I was hanging on him and breathing in his face!).

I let it roll off my back. I said he must be extra aware of all my bad smells now after living in a world full of cologne and perfume and axe body spray and febreeze. :P (ok, I should not have said that!!!)

He said, "I find you a lot more attractive when you don't talk for some reason." I said, "Wow. Clearly you would rather be alone right now, so I am going to give you what you want." And then I left.

I certainly could have replied that I find him more attractive when he isn't banging an emotionally damaged skank, but SEE? I AM learning self control and filtering my words!

So I guess he came home for a shower and change of clothes AND to push my buttons.

Will be interesting to see what he ends up doing tomorrow. Usually he works from home Friday afternoons, but since he worked remotely from OW's all day today he might have to spend the day at work.

The guy says "Yes, I do want you to wait for me." And then dials way back on the charm. If I didn't know this was a well established MLC pattern it would sure confuse me.