You did what the Lord prompted you to do. It was a cycle and it had to be broken. You handled yourself well and you did what the Lord had planned.
Now the decision is your husband's and you have opened the cage door to let him go. Now leave that cage door open and go on with your life. Do what you have been doing.
Your husband now knows where you stand and he does have some thinking to do. With MLC, this is normal in order for them to continue through the tunnel. Now you will end up back in limbo land, but you have totally released him for the first time, and now you will continue with action.
He now knows that you love him and that you are willing to work on the relationship, but you have also set boundaries to let him know that you will not accept a life with the three of you. He has to make a decision and either it will be you or her. He needed to be put in this spot because he has been sitting on the fence and blaming you and treating you terribly for his own guilt.
He doesn't know his own feelings and if he did, he wouldn't be so confused. He was honest with you and you were honest with him and yes, the things that he said hurt, but the Lord had you prepared and now he will help you to heal.
He will also work on your husband, but your husband is also aware of what you will accept and what you won't and that is good. He has to realize that those feelings are not going to go away over night, but the Lord will help to heal him if he will allow him to work.
Now, don't look at your circumstances and trust the Lord. You have come a very long way and you are a very strong person. You are not alone. The Lord is with you through all of this and he will help you through it all.
