I just found your thread for the first time and your story is inspiring (change IS possible) and sad at the same time. Do you feel the need to make a decision right now? Does H? Why can't you continue doing what you are doing, both continue to grow and then, (when you are ready) take a chance and see where it goes?

You sound very wise, your H is growing and becoming the man he should be and wants to be, take your time.

M 46
H 44
D 12 S 8
M 9 T 11
BD 2/15/13
"Makes sense to stay together" 5/12/13
Agree we are 'healing' 7/13
Definitely Piecing 9/13