NO TEXTING H EVER!!!! For awhile I only texted back or to H if it was about logistical stuff with S or other. And short responses. If H felt there was more need for talk or his texts became long or whiny, I would say let's talk about this later. Most of the time in my sitch, he wouldn't bring it up again. And I would never bring it up, I would wait...for him to bring up things if he needed to talk.
Your H is seriously wanting his cake and eating it too. And when you don't respond the way he is used to, he starts whining like a child. This is his Replay child. You saying 'Don't talk to me that way..' was a fabulous way of setting a boundary. This is what we do to kids too. He may need to see more boundaries from you. Start slow, think about small boundaries and see what happens.
You do better than you think. Every time something happens you are regaining composure and practicing your db skills.
And tiger, I am honored I made someone's notebook! Must mean I just might know what the h I'm talking about
Me:49 H:47 S: 16 T:27 M:25 My EA: 2001 His PA: 10/2007, 6/2013 Separated, but H still in house
Find your Shambala: a place of peace and happiness.
