I forgot until I read your post, but I actually did tell him in one of our last texts last night that I didn't want to move out. That I was just upset and hurt. He responded "ok...I'm deleting all these texts anyway so it's like they never happened."
I wondered if it was a mistake to tell him I didn't mean the moving out thing...but see with your comments that it was probably the right thing to do. Glad I told him that.
And, you are right about the judging thing. I wouldn't want to continually be judged by my H on my worst qualities or mistakes.
I guess I'm really scared of being a "doormat" or a "fool" so I'm not being as compassionate as I could be.
