Welcome to the boards. People here are great. Sorry you find yourself in this position. I think that with depressed spouses, detaching and GALing are especially important.
Good luck.
s4tk
_________________________ Me: 37 W: 37 M: 11 D:5 S:2 IDLYA, W removed rings, BD 07/13 EA/Fantasy (PA?) confirmed 12/13 W moved out 05/14