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[SM34]

Thank you all. Its good to be back! I feel I am in a much better place now, and I can focus on learning about relationships and what makes a successful one, as well as ironing out my issues.

Thinking about my new thread and how to start it off so that I achieve my goals of learning from everyone of you who has experience in this. Keep an eye it, ill post a link to it on this thread as soon as I set it up.

Accuray please stay with me. I have worked to open my eyes more and I hope I'm ready now to absorb your knowledge. You have A LOT of knowledge! Infact, if you ever think about writing a book, sign me up or your first copy!!

MrBond I hope to see you return too. There is much I would like to discuss with you. Specifically interested in how your marruage is going, how you keep the 'spark' etc but we will get to that on my new thread.

Would love to hear from some of the ladies again....25yearsmlc, adinva, lovethehub etc..

There has not been much progress in my sitch. Still living together, wife still involved with OM. I've contemplated forcing a crisis like the book 'tough love' suggests in order to bring about change. ...

However, I'm in a senitive position because we have recently finally figured out what the cause of my daughters learning delays and behavuoral issues. After seeing a child psychologist and having evaluation by the county school system, it seems he most likely has Sensor Processing Disorder.

This explains the difficulty we have had with her. Up until two months after BD, wife was taking care of her full time and it drove her up the wall. I attribute this as part of the cause of wifes crisis and the source of some of her frustrations.

I confided with the professionals who evaluated my daughter and was advised that any changes in family setup would most likely push her to full blown learning disability level. Right now they believe they can, through therapy and a special program she has been enrolled in, help her catch up with kids her age. Any disruption to her emotional well being would probably jepoardize her ability to enter into the pre K program in August of next year. Already they are worried that they only have less than ten months to prepare her without any set backs.

So I'm I a tough spot to say the least. I'm having to battle the urge to cause the havoc that my wife may need to live through in order to see her future unfold. I need to put my daughters psychological well being at top priority..

In the meantime, I'm trying to live a separate life while still living together and still nurturing my daughters need for safety. Whether this new crisis our family has been forced into has any effect on my wifes decisions is yet to be seen.

So while we are in a holding pattern until ny duaghter starts her special education program on december 3rd and we see how quickly she responds to the new therapy, I am working on a better understanding of marriages. Need to be ready for either the piecing of my family (choice number one) or the beginning of new relationship. I'm not ready for someone new so I guess its not so hard to sit tight and see what happens with my daughter.

Ill explain more in the opening post of my new thread.