What's mine? A Jeckyll/Hyde/Kitty/dumb-butt MLC-er? (It's anger and forgiveness week in Lois Land).
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I heard the most wonderful quote the other day 'You are entitled to your own opinions, but you are not entitled to your own facts'
Now, a wise person told me a long time ago that a MLC relationship exists largely in the MLCers head - more than most relationships it is a projection. RT is a symbol and you are a symbol. To this day my xh does not treat me as if I were a flesh and blood human being. I can't explain it any other way, but I am not real to him. My feelings have no validity and what I say is always incorrect. I do not think he actually aware that I am a symbol to hm of all that is wrong in his life, and post divorce, when the reality is I have no impact on his life, I remain in this role.
Bea, this is truly profound. I love this. Love it. I need to read this over and over.
Linda, YOU ARE DOING GREAT!!!! Don't let the "prognosis" sway you away from your hard work. BELIEVE. Believe in yourself.
You have choices. These stats aren't written in stone.
At the same time, maybe there's a part of you that needs to really imagine life without him. Maybe for your own growth and sanity? Not because that's what will happen, but so you will able to accept things as they are? IDK. Maybe I'm talking out my butt here.
You reacted strongly to this idea of survival rates. Why?
Much love sent your way...
Heather
"You know, it's times like these when I realize what a superhero I am." Tony Stark/Iron Man
“Focus on what you can do, then do it with all your heart.” Lois Wilson
