You can look at it two ways, continue with adoption process and see if new addition creates change in marriage or don't adopt and spare child of marital issues. My W and I adopted a new born, 14 months ago and in the last few months have been having marital issues (I had a 1 month affair). See my post for more info. But, if we divorce, I will do the child support and visits and the whole nine, but my preference is to remain married not because of paying mone but to give my son a two parent home.
