If I were a superhero...

[Accuray]

That was a well-written description of what's happened to you in your marriage. You said there was more, let's have it!

Reading through this, you moved away to further your career, you drifted apart due to the distance, and your W got lonely and pursued on affair.

Many of her complaints and criticisms seem to be reflected affair guilt, so I wouldn't be too hard on yourself. A marriage consists of two people, not just one, so she could have forced the move sooner if it was that important to her. She's not a victim here.

At this point, it looks like she is going through some kind of Amish Rumspringa, or "I got married too young and never got to sow my wild oats" type phase. From what I've read, when you get married before 25, and worse yet if you haven't had many long term relationships before getting married, it's not that unusual to run into this type of pre-midlife crisis, something sometimes referred to as "the seven year itch".

So aside from reading this background you've provided, how can the folks in this community help you?

Acc