RL I didn't mean to upset you. The problem is that although overall using DBing techniques it is probable that 75% of marriages can be saved across all of the forums, and probably more, MLC is another matter. We are dealing with someone damaged, who may lack the coping skills to work on their marriage, even if they really want it.
There are no guarantees, but you are handling the situation extremely well, and your husband isn't too extreme as MLCers go. If you look at many of us here, like Golfmom, and WH, and my little chap, we are dealing with the crazier end.
Who in their right mind would have left URworthy? Another crazy one. Marriages do get restored here, and also many LBS find more fulfilling lives - it is wonderful to stand for a marriage, and worth it if the marriage is restored to something new and better, but life with a MLCer isn't a barrel of laughs, and at some point many understandably say 'Enough'
