I would plan to go ahead and do the turkey myself. They don't think that far ahead when it comes to preparing for a dinner of this sort.
Why not prepare most of your "fixings" the night before so that all you have to do is pop whatever in the oven, etc, and can enjoy some time w/your family? The day shouldn't be all about you staying in the kitchen. Do something different this year so that YOU can enjoy the day as well.
The above would be 180's for you and something different form what you've done in the past.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
