RH, I do agree w/uR, you need to start being all you can be for yourself. You are very accommodating to your h and that's exactly where you were pre-crisis. This is a new relationship, thus both of you are learning to be better people and this is the time for you to explore what you want to be when you grow up. You and your h do a lot of things together, but you need to be your own independent self in doing some things as well. It will bring more spice to your new life if you had your own interests that are separate from your h's.
What about your real estate license? It's time to get moving on that and you don't have to be away from the home 40 hours a week. After your initial trial period and you begin to gain recognition, you may be able to set your own hours.
Please do not fall back into your old patterns, i.e., your life. You've been given a second chance to do something different and wonderful besides being a mother, homemaker and wife. It's an opportunity to bring to the table your knowledge, independence and yes, interesting things that happen to you during the day. It keeps the spice in life going. Learn to be more independent and do things that you enjoy as well. Both of you need some time to do things separately. Being joined at the hip isn't beginning a new life. Again, you and your h have been given a second chance. Take the gift of time and do something wonderful w/it, not just for your marriage and your h...but for yourself.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
