Hanging on to the roller coaster

[tigerlily78]

CC,

Sounds like your talk went really well and you handled it like a champ. You should be so proud of yourself today.

[CallaghanClown]

Thanks tigerlily

It needs to be noted that on this day in 2013......he said "I'm just talking about myself again, how selfish, how are you?"

This may never happen again so I needed to right it down! I was so shocked I just replied "I'm ok thanks".

[CallaghanClown]

Write it down not right.....

[tigerlily78]

Ahh a woman after my own heart. I just corrected my mom for that same write/right thing when we were chatting last night.

I agree, that comment is worth putting on the calendar!!

One time even before bomb drop my H admitted to me he was wrong about something. I teased him that I was going to put THAT on my calendar and celebrate it every year. lol.

[CallaghanClown]

Tigerlily we need to celebrate everything positive or we'd never have anything to celebrate!

Today's positive just got overshadowed by his leaving comment that he's sorry his feelings have changed and doesn't look forward to telling the kids what he's done when they are teenagers.

I refuse to let this one comment cloud the positives though. But I feel like I'm being stabbed every time he says his feelings have changed.....aaaaahhhhhh. I bloody get it stop saying it. My friend says he says it so often to remind himself. I must just shut off from it.

Chocolate biscuit needed.......

[tigerlily78]

Yes, it's good that you realize what he says out loud is almost always more for HIS sake than for yours. He is trying to rationalize and make sure that wall stays up.

[CallaghanClown]

Yep that's what he's doing....I must try to remember it. Don't listen to what he's saying and only believe half of what he does.

So ignoring everything he said and concentrating on what he did....

He made me a cup of tea....two actually. He knows I never made my own, it's just not the same.

He sat next to me for lunch, first time he's sat next to me since BD.

He took me out for lunch, first time we've eaten together since BD.

He did the dishes.....silly but he hasn't cleared up his mess or the kids since BD.

He made the kids clean their room.

I'm concentrating on the positives!

[Pudmuddle]

I love this line: So ignoring everything he said and concentrating on what he did...

Looks like fabulous small changes you are seeing! Looks like he is doing things that actually mean something to you...that is huge!

I love your positive spirit CC.

[LoisB]

CC,

That's so awesome!!!! I hope you are really proud of yourself. You should be.

You handled it like a champ.

Right on, don't dwell on what he said or didn't say. Focus on the positives just like you said. Actions mean way more.

Enjoy this victory today. You did yourself proud.

Much Love,

Heather

[tigerlily78]

Wow, that is a nice list of actions.