It's Not Over 'Till It's Over

[Fight4MyWife]

PatientMan, thanks for your post, it is very much appreciated. I will read it and re-read it and try to implement it the best I can.

There was a time today where I felt like something had clicked and I felt good & positive, like I was finally able to detach properly. However, at the same time I felt more like I didn't care if my marriage worked out or not and felt like putting up a fight.

I think when I am in fight mode then I find it easier to detach and feel much better, but it also feels that this is not then really divorce busting.

There is a section in The Divorce Remedy regarding the legal system that says "Although protecting oneself is important, some times the very things you do to protect personal interests jeopardize the slightest hope that your partner will remain civil to one another, let alone consider reconciliation.

This is the area I am most struggling with, finding the balance between being strong & detached but not getting into a battle of wills. I find it easier to detach if I give up completely on saving my marriage but difficult to then not do the things that might jeopardize all chances of reconciliation.

I'm not sure how I can become a man only a fool would leave when I am disagreeing with her.