Yeah, I wondered if the "trust" thing is just something I need to let go of thinking about for now.
If we don't reconcile, it won't matter anyway. And, if we do reconcile, I guess that's something we deal with then.
I just keep thinking about how much I don't trust or respect him...and just wonder if I ever will be able to....but I think you're right. This is something that has to come from both sides working on it. My H is definitely nowhere near that.
And, my H is mostly trustworthy when it comes to paying bills...and he's good about making sure our kids have what they need (groceries, school lunches, etc.).
So, I'll try to think of this trust thing as a "no expectations" issue...good way to look at it.
