Confusion Reigns Part 4

[tigerlily78]

I think trust is a two way thing. Right now he isn't really making an effort to build trust, so it seems premature to try and give him any trust.

I think it all goes back to the bit about "having no expectations." If we have expectations they ARE just going to keep letting us down for now, that's just the reality. And how can you trust someone who keeps letting you down?

In my mind I imagine that it won't be time for me to really think about rebuilding trust with my H until he is a willing and active participant in the process. Right now I do feel like I can trust him in smaller ways (to make sure the bills are paid and we have groceries in the fridge)... his sense of his commitment to provide for me and my son is still fairly strong.

But obviously that is one small area of trust, if he came home tomorrow and said "I am ready to be back home, let's have sex" that I would not trust. :P