But i thought about DB, and what i normally do. I would normally have said, well you shouldn't have felt that way, I was just saying goodbye.
Instead I stopped, gathered myself, and told her that i understood that I had made her feel this way, and that I was sorry.
And then she thanked me.
AWESOME JOB OF VALIDATION!!! The thing with validation is that you may not agree with what she said, but you don't have to. It is about letting her know you understand her FEELINGS. And her response is a typical one to good validation, instead of this turning into a nasty argument she THANKED you! I bet it felt great, didn't it? There's an old saying around here- do you want to be right or do you want to be happily married? A lot of times we have to swallow our pride in the interest of making peace.
