J - I am so sorry you are going through this. The same thing happened to me. I am still amazed that they can look into your eyes AFTER you catch them and continue to lie. My IC said that it like they are a drug addict trying to protect their stash. It is like their brain has stopped working because they actually believe their lies and expect us to do so too. My H has never told me the truth about anything related to his A. The only things that I know are the things that I found. If they admit the truth to us, they have to admit the truth to themselves.
You have found a great place to turn. Keep writing and keep moving forward
