You need to plan your life as if H is not a part of it. Don't ask your H what his weekend plans are any more. Start planning your weekends. If H comes into town, you can tell him that you have plans and/or he is free to join if YOU want to extend the invitation. Continue with your plans regardless of how H's responds and don't let his response both you.
Having a life helps on so many different levels. It helps improve your mood and make you not feel so lonely and dependent on H. It is a 180, which may cause H to take notice.
I spend 2 years waiting on my H to decide his plans before making my own plans. I am now living my life for myself and the kids. Now H has to rearrange his schedule if he want to do something that we have already planned. This has been hard for me because I don't have a ton of friends. But I force myself to look at the calendar and plan something each weekend.
Although it is hard, you need to stop worrying about how he feels. Do not try and control whether or not he comes into town. Do not even mention it to him. Plan your life.
You will be happier. And it may even have a positive effect on your H.
