Regarding my discovery of A. It started with me seeing a Facebook conversation with him saying something along the lines of "I can't wait to touch you again" I confronted him. He said I was taking it out of context and he was talking about comforting her during her daughter's surgery.
Than a week later I saw a text from her saying " I love you and will carry you in my heart forever. " this is an old high school friend he reconnected with on Facebook.
He said she meant to send it to someone else but also freaked out at me for snooping and not trusting him. The next day his phone was password protected. Facebook and email passwords that we always had shared were suddenly changed.
Over the next few weeks he started to distance himself from me. Stopped calling me from work. Took hours to return my calls. Started taking the dog out every night for 2 hour walks. Started hanging out in the basement. Became very protective of phone even started sleeping with it.
As expected things were getting very bad between us and I questioned him about A and OW. He said I was crazy. He said he had broken all contact with her weeks before because it upset me.
But nothing changed and my gut told me a different story so I checked phone records and found out it was a lie. Hundreds of texts back and forth between them every day starting when he got up at 5 am. All those long walks with dog he was talking to her. Long calls to her every time I worked late and he was supposed to be caring for s9.
I confronted. He denied. Fights escalated. BD. And that is when I discovered DB.
Whew... good to get it out but now I am done. Time to stop giving so much power to a bad situation and focus on Me.
Exercise and reading today as well as trip to craft store to find a holiday project.
IC tomorrow.
This sounds so much like the start of my sitch, its uncanny.
Someone who openly shared their passwords, and phone with me at one time, now PW protects phone, changed all PW's and never seems to EVER put her phone down.
