All Alone, I thought it was a lovely gesture that you neighbor offered up a spot of tea and a safe place to chat. She wanted you to know that she was there for you if you needed her. It's not so much that she felt sorry for you, but she was offering a gesture of friendship.
Absolutely! If you sit quietly, wait patiently, things begin to happen in their own time, as well as info being dropped in your lap. You can't push the universe to provide answers...they come when you least expect them.
When you are feeling better, why not take your neighbor up on her offer for that spot of tea? I think it would do both of you a world of good.
I hope you feel better soon.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.