Your H has problems that you can't help him with. He's obviously confused and hurting. Whether he decides to get help and fix him, is not up to you. It's on him. Can you support him as much as you can in that, yes but that doesn't mean you have to be with him.

You can and should have boundaries and one could be that in order for the 2 of you to be together he needs to be in some kind of treatment. In 6 months or whatever, you can revisit the issue. Even with treatment, it doesn't mean the marriage will work.

It's more important for kids to be in a healthy, happy home than an intact family. A parents depression ahs a great impact on the kids.

You aren't the reason and you don't know what the future holds but now you have to take care of you and your babies.

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss