JG, keep working at DBing. Read the rules more than once a day. Read them every time you are going to see H. You need to be able to bite your tongue. Before you react to anything, ask yourself whether making that comment is going to help you or hurt you in what you are trying to accomplish. Making comments about his pants is NOT helping you. It is only giving him more ammunition against you.
You didn't give much detail about how you confirmed the A. Just through phone records? Is there a particular phone number that he calls frequently? Do you know who it is?
Yes, read DR! Read it twice. I think it will really help you to understand DBing better!
me: 44 XH: 42 M 11 years D10 and S8 Bomb drop 9/27/13 D final 7/1/14
