T, I have been following your thread for a bit, but didn't have anything useful to add. Just wanted to let you know, from someone who is well behind you in this process, that you have some pretty great insight and wow, you are strong!! Good for you for seeing things as they are and your W as she is, and not trying to jump back in out of desperation. Your W sounds pretty conflicted, and yes, she does have a lot of work to do on herself. It sure doesn't seem like she is ready to let you go. I will be interested to see what she does/thinks if you decide to move forward with D.
me: 44 XH: 42 M 11 years D10 and S8 Bomb drop 9/27/13 D final 7/1/14