Hoping to still move forward, huge setback

[cbtdad]

Hey JP!! Things are going really well. New job started Monday and have been really busy. Be honest it's the first time since we moved that I am working full time so its allowed me to not really even think about situation and just be in marriage for now if that makes sense. Went to horse show over the weekend with W and it was a good time. I got to see what these bigger horse shows about and allowed some "healing" on my part. She did really well and won her division.
I've been feeling good about some things, but bad about others. I still feel like I'm "not wanted"
She isn't instigating sex, hugging, kissing, etc
Something we are discussing in MC.
But that post above by Fade definitely brings a lot of negative thoughts in my head.

Fade, I do appreciate you coming by my thread and posting. You hit the nail on the head with some of my concerns for sure. There are a few things Im not sure about though. I don't think she led me to the city where OM is. We were choosing between here and Asheville and here was just more logical at the time for business and her horse riding. Plus I lived here for 10 years and went to high school here and have a whole lot of old friends here. OM lives about an hour away, but yes definitely closer.
Yes, she is really good friends with a friend of OM, but as of now I am ok with that. I've become friends with her husband as well and they know the situation.
W has agreed that there is never a reason to have any contact with OM. She hasn't brought it up since a couple weeks ago and has had no contact with him since that one time last month. The incident helped in both of us understanding that this is a long term healing process.
I do worry that this can be "reignited" and that's why I say no contact.
So when she says she feels nothing "emotionally" and its in the past, do you think she is lying to me?
I don't know your situation. Can you tell me where you are "seeing or experiencing" this from?
I appreciate your input